…And Our Patience Ran Out

On November 19, 2023, Tosin shared the heartbreaking news of Patience Opute’s battle with breast cancer. Diagnosed at stage two, it seemed a challenge, but one that appeared manageable.

Our association immediately mobilized. Support poured in—both financial assistance for treatment and visits to uplift her spirit. It was a collective effort, a beautiful sacrifice for the preservation of a life held delicately in the hands of the Almighty.

The battle took its toll on Patience, both physically and mentally. Her once-vibrant presence on the platform faded. Those unaware of her struggle must have wondered about her silence. Patience had been a visible and engaging member—she bantered often with Jumoke and shared witty comments, sometimes playfully teasing TK Akintajuwa. I recall Taiwo sending her a sticker that read, “Certified Trouble Maker,” a reflection of her lively personality.

Though I didn’t know Patience personally during our time at OSSO, she welcomed me warmly when I joined the association after Obong’s passing. I had seen posts about Obong’s death on Facebook, as well as that of Tayo, and later connected with others through conversations with the Alakes.

I got to know Patience through her interactions on the platform. She had a knack for sparking conversations and making everyone feel involved. Once, she responded to a piece I had written about my friend Bukky, mentioning a particular line that always made her laugh whenever she remembered it. I had intended to clarify her interpretation of what I had written, but sadly, she didn’t live long enough for that conversation to happen.

Not long after learning of her battle with cancer—a disease as agonizing as it is unforgiving—Patience breathed her last. Despite the initial hope, given the stage of her diagnosis, her journey came to an end. It was a stark reminder that our time is not solely determined by adherence to health practices but by the divine timeline set by God.

On December 30, 2023, Patience was laid to rest, leaving behind a community that both loved and, perhaps, disagreed with her in equal measure.

As we reflect on her life, it is imperative to acknowledge the brevity of our existence. Let us embrace wisdom by numbering our days and understanding life’s transient nature. With such wisdom, we are called to love—for love is the true essence of living.

Uwem Sampson